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Wednesday, June 13, 2012

I recently stumbled upon a website called goodwomenproject.com and have found some very intriguing and inspiring thoughts from women who are just like me - married, a believer in Christ, a human being trying to figure out what life is all about and how to be a better woman.

I read the posts that were under the topic of "what no one told me about marriage" and have realized that I'm not the only one who isn't the perfect wife and that I'm not the only one who is trying to figure out how to be a better wife.  

I have put some of the things that stuck out most to me and that impacted me the most. 


We were made with a passion and a heart to heal the world. We yearn for great love and peace and unity. Our emotions speak of what our hearts are made of. And our hearts are made from God. Our hearts are a direct reflection of His character.-Alyssa Ferrero

 “Every morning, you wake up & roll over & decide to love that person, no matter what comes.  Some days it is easy.  Other days it is work.  But the important thing is to make the decision.”
- Blair (Beth Anne)'s Aunt 

  • Marriage is hard and it’s hard work. Then again, things that are worth it usually are.
  • It’s an unbelievable feeling always having your best friend around.
  •  Some of the greatest conversations are when you hardly say anything and just enjoy each other’s company.
  • Nothing beats waking up next to your hubby every day.
  • Don’t take yourselves too seriously.
  • It’s important to have date nights.
  • No screens (TV, computer, or otherwise) in the bedroom.
  • Sometimes you’ll want to go to bed mad, but always kiss before you fall asleep. You might still be frustrated, but at least you’ll go to bed knowing you’re loved.
  • Kiss your spouse like you mean it. My husband says that sometimes I give “pencil eraser” kisses…just little pecks. I’m working on this one.
  • Tell your spouse you love them. And truly mean it.
As women, we were created to be man’s helper: to build him up and care for him, not to tear him down if he fails. Because he is human, your man will fail. Your job is to encourage him in every circumstance. Don’t baby him. Let him know that he is your man, your hunk, and the only man you will ever need.
-Arianna Patrick

“The first year is the hardest.”
I wish someone would have told me that’s a load of crap. The first year of marriage is new, fresh, transformational and exciting. It has it’s challenges, just like any new experience. But, the first year of marriage is only as hard as you allow it to be. You can’t control what happens in life, but you can control your response.
So, you know that heavy baggage you carry around? The stuff that you shove underneath the bed so nobody sees when they show up in your life? You might as well take it out and start sorting through that stuff now. I wish someone would have told me that the baggage doesn't vanish with the vows. But, you don’t have to have it figured out before you’re married. God is gracious in providing people in our lives to help us sort through the hard stuff… and you will find no greater ally than your husband.
I wish someone would have told me that conflict is okay. I wish someone would have told me that it’s okay to respond emotionally. I wish someone would have told me that being honest and real is more important than good conversation etiquette. My husband wants me, all of me, the real me… not a watered-down version, not a sugar-coated version. Anything less than the real me will never last in marriage.
While marriage is joyful, blissful, exciting and adventurous, those aren’t it’s only purposes. Marriage is meant to change you. To mold you. To transform you into a better version of yourself. Marriage is one of the most powerful tools that God uses to shape us into looking more like Him. 
-Nish Weiseth
I love being a wife. I love Nicholas Clark Gordon with all of my heart and soul.


  1. All those points are so true and so awesome!! Marriage is the best:) Thanks for sharing this, April!

    1. You're very welcome! You should check out the website I got them from - it's a good one. We should do lunch and catch up sometime!!